Sunday, February 17, 2013

rules for travel...


you can learn an awful lot about folks when you go out of town with them. sure, you may spend time with them on the regular (in a casual way), but when you actually leave your comfort zone & venture out into the unknown world of personalities…woah. here are some simple truths & rules to help prepare you mentally…

-have a plan prior to departure; as in, everyone on the same page.
-if someone else is waiting on you, notify them in advance that you’re running 3 hours behind estimated pick up time. 
-just because you have crossed your i’s & dotted your t’s, does not mean others have. expect hiccups.
-accepting a last minute guest can be tricky. stick to the original lineup, if possible.
-take some sort of snacks or sustenance for yourself. never know when you will have to fast for 24 hours.
-have more than 1 or 2 things in common with fellow travelers.
-do not discuss any intelligent or mature topics…actually, just keep your mouth shut. not everyone has an open mind.
-not everyone will get your sense of humor. some folks are too damn serious & some are too damn sensitive.
-always remember that it only takes one negative nellie or complainer to derail the whole group.
-be mindful that “it’s not all about you” when others are involved.
-don’t count on too much; even though having fun shouldn’t be too much to ask.
-everyone has an opinion or a good idea; use common sense to decide what will suit the whole.
-don’t feel bad to deviate from the herd to do what you want to do…every man for himself, right?
-don’t wait for later, in a little bit, wanna do this, let’s go here, or tomorrow. if you want it, get it or do it…now.
-actions definitely speak louder than words.
-don’t “volunteer” to do something only to bitch about it…repeatedly.
-don’t be a broken freaking record.
-don’t attempt to bond with those you don’t know or expect to make memories with those that you do.
-just because you’re the loudest voice doesn’t make you the leader, the voice of reason, or the most accurate.
-communication is key!
-be respectful of other people’s personal space.
-be responsible for your own comfort, insecurities, etc.
-things are going to go awry. & sometimes it’s over & over & over…pretty much until you get back home.
-if some things are out of your control, there’s really no need to bring everyone else down.
-enthusiasm & excitement can always be blindsided.
-your own bed will never feel better to you than after a miserable trip.
-keep in mind that after every bad experience, your appreciation for your lovely life will be exemplified! 

hope this helped someone out there! just choose wisely & buckle up for a potential hellacious ride. back to being positive; having learned more about myself & the situations i wish to involve myself with in the future. i wash my hands of it now & will not wallow in it any longer. life goes on. (my beautiful, cozy, loving life) good luck & happy trails!

Friday, February 8, 2013

movie marathon checklist...


with my recent infatuation with lists & ongoing love of romantic movies, i decided to compile my all-time favorites in honor of the holiday that folks either heart or hate. & whether you refer to it as valentine’s or singles day, these movies are bound to make you smile, laugh, cry…or preferably all of the above. mental & emotional cleansing is good for the soul, people. keep in mind, my idea of oober romantic isn’t always the most conventional, so if you find yourself saying “wha?” it’s cool. now, grab some kleenex (just in case) & enjoy!

1. ‘can’t buy me love’ (1987) patrick dempsey, amanda peterson. a “nerd” gets a makeover by the girl of his dreams. best line: “nerds, jocks. my side, your side. it’s all bullshit. it’s hard enough just trying to be yourself.”
2. ‘an affair to remember’ (1957) cary grant, deborah kerr. where will you be in 6 months? best line: “i was looking up…it was the nearest thing to heaven! you were there.”
3. ‘casablanca’ (1942) humphrey bogart, ingrid bergman. one man is torn between “love & virtue.” best line: “of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, she walks into mine.”
4. ‘romeo & juliet’ (1996) leonardo dicaprio, claire danes. “star-crossed lovers.” best line: “did my heart love 'til now? forswear its sight. for i never saw true beauty 'til this night.”
5. ‘breakfast at tiffany’s’ (1961) audrey hepburn, george preppard. a free spirit struggles to surrender to true love. best line: “i'm like cat here, a no-name slob. we belong to nobody, and nobody belongs to us. we don't even belong to each other.”
6. ‘the notebook’ (2004) james garner, gena rowlands, ryan gosling, rachel mcadams. two lovers are separated by the differences of their social class. best line: “well that's what we do, we fight... you tell me when i am being an arrogant son of a bitch and i tell you when you are a pain in the ass. which you are, 99% of the time. i'm not afraid to hurt your feelings. you have like a 2 second rebound rate, then you're back doing the next pain-in-the-ass thing.”
7. ‘titanic’ (1997) leonardo dicaprio, kate winslet. an unsinkable love affair. best line: “rose, you're no picnic, all right? you're a spoiled little brat, even, but under that, you're the most amazingly, astounding, wonderful girl, woman that i've ever known...”
8. ‘dracula’ (1992) gary oldman, winona ryder. love never dies. best line: “ i have crossed oceans of time to find you.”
9. ‘a lot like love’ (2005) ashton kutcher, amanda peet. fate keeps crossing their paths…meant to be? best line: “well, if it wasn't love, it was a lot like it.”
10. ‘edward scissorhands’ (1990) johnny depp, winona ryder. welcomed into suburbia, an “uncommonly gentle” man falls in love with a teenage girl. best line: “before he came down here, it never snowed. and afterwards, it did. if he weren't up there now...i don't think it would be snowing. sometimes you can still catch me dancing in it.”
11. ‘valley girl’ (1983) nicholas cage, deborah foreman. opposites attract, like, for sure! best line: “man, he’s like tripendicular, ya kow?”
12. ‘overboard’ (1987) goldie hawn, kurt russell. sometimes love is tricky. best line: “it’s a helluva day at sea, sir!”
13. ‘the girl next door’ (2004) emile hirsch, elisha cuthbert.  a former porn star moves in next door to an overachieving high school senior. best line: “because in your heart you know, that the juice is worth the squeeze.”
14. ‘dirty dancing’ (1987) patrick swayze, jennifer grey. when baby meets johnny. best line: “most of all i'm scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way i feel when i'm with you.”
15. ‘the way we were’ (1973) barbra streisand, robert redford. political views & values weigh heavy in a wonderful romance. best line: “your girl is lovely, hubbell.”
16. ‘brokeback mountain’ (2005) heath ledger, jake gyllenhaal. modern day romeo & juliet. best line: “i wish i knew how to quit you.”
17. ‘romancing the stone’ (1984) michael douglas, kathleen turner. a romance writer stumbles into a dangerous adventure. best line: “what did you do, wake up this morning and say, ‘today, i'm going to ruin a man's life’?”
18. ‘the holiday’ (2006) cameron diaz, kate winslet, jude law, jack black. house swappers find true happiness. best line: “legend has it, when the santa anas blow, anything can happen.”
19. ‘empire records’ (1995)  johnny whitworth, liv tyler. waiting for the perfect moment to profess his love. best line: “damn the man!”
20. ‘working girl’ (1988) melanie griffith, harrison ford. she pretends, he falls for her. she gets busted, he’s still all in. best line: “i have a head for business & a bod for sin.”
21. ‘the fifth element’ (1997) bruce willis, milla jovovich. good vs evil. best line: “i don't know love. i was built to protect not to love, so there is no use for me other than this.”
22. ‘somewhere in time’ (1980) christopher reeve, jane seymour. falling for a picture on a wall…a little self-hypnosis…time travel. best line: “come back to me.”
23. ‘milk money’ (1994) ed harris, melanie griffith. a little boy wants to find his dad a wife. best line: “there is a place you can touch on a woman that will make her go crazy”…”where?”…”her heart.”
24. ‘chasing amy’ (1997) ben affleck, joey lauren adams. sexual orientation & attraction & love & pasts equal tension & confusion. best line: “this is all gonna end badly.”
25. ‘annie hall’ (1977) woody allen, diane keaton. “a nervous romance” best line: “that sex was the most fun i’ve ever had without laughing.”
26. ‘legend’ (1985) tom cruise, mia sara, tim curry. a fantastical tale where light challenges dark. best line: “love you say? well, love is another matter.”
27. ‘kissing jessica stein’ (2001) jennifer westfeldt, heather juergensen. looking for the perfect man leads to finding the perfect woman. best line: “i took out an ad for christ's sake. and i ended up with the jewish sandra dee.”
28. ‘bridget jones’s diary’ (2001) renee zellweger, colin firth, hugh grant. self exploration & improvement through keeping a diary. best line: “i choose vodka & chaka khan.”
29. ‘natural born killers’ (1994) woody harrelson, juliette lewis. mickey & mallory are crazy about each…& just plain crazy! best line: “you make every day feel like kindergarten.”
30. ‘benny & joon’ (1993) johnny depp, mary stuart masterson. there’s someone for everyone. best line: “you know, it seems to me that, i mean, except for being a little mentally ill, she's pretty normal.”
31. ‘dream a little dream’ (1989) corey feldman, jason robards, meredith salenger. accidental body swapping & dreams vs reality. best line: “thank you for a frightening, confusing, strange and dangerous time. what more could a girl ask for?”
32. ‘coming to america’ (1988) eddie murphy, shari headley. a prince goes undercover in hopes of meeting his soulmate. best line: “girl, you look so good, someone ought to put you on a plate and sop you up with a biscuit.”
33. ‘cruel intentions’ (1999) sarah michelle geller, ryan phillipe, reese witherspoon. a womanizer finally lets real feelings & love in. best line: “it’s okay, you can laugh. i promise i won’t tell anyone.”
34. ‘some kind of wonderful’ (1987) eric stoltz, mary stuart masterson, lea thompson. love might just be right in front of you the whole time. best line: “don’t go mistaking paradise for a pair of long legs.”
35. ‘wedding singer’ (1998) adam sandler, drew barrymore. you don’t have to settle…for companionship. best line: “well, i have a microphone, and you don't, SO YOU WILL LISTEN TO EVERY DAMN WORD I HAVE TO SAY!
36. ‘sex & the city’ (2008) sarah jessica parker, kim cattrall, kristin davis, cynthia nixon. whether there’s a mr. big or not, best friends are there ‘til death do you part. best line: “just calling to make sure you aren’t hanging from your shower rod.”
37. ‘how to marry a millionaire’ (1953) marilyn monroe, betty grable, lauren bacall. set on finding fortune results in finding love. best line: “wealthy men are never old.”
38. ‘the princess bride’ (1987) cary elwes, robin wright. a grandfather reads a romantic & adventurous fairy tale to his grandson. best line: “hello. my name is inigo montoya. you killed my father. prepare to die.”
39. ‘stealing home’ (1988) mark harmon, jodie foster. a man must finally let go of his first true love, his babysitter. best line: “i love you, billy boy!”
40. ‘say anything’ (1989) john cusack, ione skye. he holds up a boom box outside her window, for goodness sakes! best line: “she’s gone, she gave me a pen. i gave her my heart, she gave me a pen.”

*these are in no way in any particular order, & there are only a bazillion more out there. These are just truly some of the best; per moi. did you agree with any of them? you’re already on Netflix, aren’t you?